Love is vulnerable

Recently, I have heard quite a few couple who broke up from a long-term relationship. No matter if it's 3 years, or 5 years, they all seem to end without hesitation. Couples that I thought would definitely get married, gradually fell apart. I used to believe that time would allow a couple to understand each other, adapt each other's strength and weakness, which will only build a stronger foundation for the next level. But now it seems to me that it's just as likely to go downhill as to go uphill. It no longer symbolizes stability and security.

The worse is to see the ruthless ending of such separation. Women who gave their life out to someone who thought that they can trust, got terribly crushed. All the years of giving, loving and caring turns into a heart broken experience.

If love relationship is becoming such a gambling match, is there a way we can approach love in a more cautious manner and not hurt ourselves too deep before it's too late. It's really easy to say, but I don't even know if that's possible.



"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love."